Well after chasing my tail all week I finally got it sorted.
I initially went to my Dodge dealership and bought steering coupler part number 4115549 which is also the part number the repop ones from Dorman lists.
Unfortunately the next day when I picked it up and tried to install it I quickly discovered it is the larger splined coupler for manual steering vehicles.
In comparing it to my current couple it was obvious my original coupler was the correct smaller one but after a close inspection the splines on it ARE badly stripped which is why the coupler was turning freely on the splined input shaft on the steering box.
In calling the steering box rebuilder I was told the Dodge dealerships no longer carry or sell the smaller power steering couplers and anything you order from them are the larger splined manual steering couplers, I would guess the Dorman repop ones are the larger manual steering ones too.
I found a few used power steering couplers on E-bay but since this is going on the wifegod's car and I wanted the steering on the car to be 100% safe I decided to buy a brand new power steering coupler from the place that sold me the rebuilt extra firm steering box, the only other place I was able to find brand new power steering coupler was Bouchillon.
So the new coupler arrived today and fits perfectly.
So now I'm waiting for one of those Mopar upgrade wire clamps that hold the coupler lid on, should be here early next week.
The new PN 4115549 manual steering coupler that the Dodge dealerships sell with the larger splines is on the bottom, my original power steering coupler with the smaller stripped splines is on the top.