Sounds like they are feeding you fertilizer because they don't want to work on your car. They have now made two different and unrelated reasons for not working on your car. Move on and don't waste anymore time on them.
The small block bars are not an issue with a big block. Way back in the day, drag racers would put six cylinder torsion bars under a big block to assist with weight transfer, so that's total bunk that small block bars are a problem. However, for spirited street driving, you certainly could stand to step up the rate to a .96 or 1.0 bar. The smallish .89 bars you have aren't great for street driving and you will risk bottoming the front end over dips, but you can use them.
The bar rubbing on the oil pan is the center link. Yes that should be fixed. There are two ways to do so, lift the engine by putting a spacer in between the engine mount and isolater mount or by dropping the location of the link via steering box spacers and idler repositioning. Neither are particularly easy to do.
For a stop gap improvement, you can correct the camber and toe of your ride to stop tearing up tires. If you are interested in doing that, lets us know. Given your knowledge level, it will take a bit of explaining, but you can do it with basic hand tools, a tape measure, and your smart phone.