Why? Did you try the RTV and metal gaskets? That very well may do it.
Once you cut the flange, the headers can bend much easier when they are unbolted. That be a last resort, once all else fails. Still might not solve the problem.
I tend to believe the gasket blew out very fast. Its not that bad to unbolt them. Spray brake cleaner on the head and headers. Take a single edge razor blade and clean both sides. Get a new good gasket, Fel-Pro or those metal type. Put a bead of RTV on both sides of the gasket and tighten them back up-again I like to use new bolts.
I start the motor right after for 20-30 seconds, just to get some heat on it and re tighten the bolts.
It may be much much better. My 10 year old headers have a tapping sound that goes away once the hoods close-at least I can't hear it.