Really bad weekend for my family

[resq302]

Well, I am back at work today.  Figured it might help to get back into the swing of things at my police job, ya know, taking my mind off of everything that happened.  Wouldn't ya know, about a half hour ago, I answered the 911 phone and had a 2 yr old child who was not breathing.  Lets just say that I had a hell of a time keeping my composure on my end of the phone as it brought back all the bad memories from this weekend at the hospital and doctors office.   I called my Sgt. in after the call and asked him if I could take some time off again today with everything that happened.   The earliest that I can go home today will be at 1 pm.  Hopefully, nothing else will happen like that for the rest of the day.

[Chryco Psycho]

While most guys I know have secretly or not secretly wanted to be Gynos , I am not your wifes Gyno!!
  What they & I said only makes sense though & I hope & Pray you can find peace with this quickly , you have to be thankful for what you have , focus on that & keep moving forward
Neil

[resq302]

Neil,

You are totally right.  However, it seems that I keep tetter-tottering back and forth with the good stuff and then I think of the bad stuff too.  Kinda like a sick and twisted roller coaster.

Please sir, can you stop the ride?!?!?!  I think Im going to be 

[Chryco Psycho]

Hang in there , it will hurt less with time

[MrMopar440]

I can't even think of the words that will sound right so... 

[Moparal]

   Just a reminder to let you know we are still here for you if you need to talk or just want to fellowship

[sleepychallenger]

how you guys holdin up today. 

[resq302]

Eh, its day to day with us.   Emotions are still pretty high with my wife which leads to other issues, such as me not doing the right thing in her mind when it comes to repairs around the house and doing the cleaning instead of her in place of repairing a water leak at our roof/chimney.  Things are being said by her that I am not supportive or emotional about what has happened but I deal with stuff my own way.  Me, I need to keep myself busy otherwise I dwell on things and then start to overthink what might have happened.  Ya know.... the what if's....

Anyway, that whole incident started this morning when I called her up at work (while Im at work) to get her fax number to send her a fax about an article in the newspaper that I read regarding a 3 yr old Husky that attacked and killed a 6 day old baby.  Mind you my wife and I just got a 9 week old Australian Sheppard (which I was opposed to with the upcoming baby at the time, and our 21 mos old daughter) and I have had concerns about something like this happening to our daughter/ kids.   As it was, the dog ran down the hall a couple days ago, jumped on my daughter and grabbed her by the back of the neck and started biting her and clawing her.  She blamed this on me that I was not watching the dog and our daughter since she was in the bathroom and I was in our office (halfway down the hall).  Anyway, she immediately took defense to this, today, and wanted to know why I kept harping about the dog and that if I wanted to get rid of it, then I should.  Now I am not opposed to owning a dog, just owning one at this time with our daughter being so young and that we had another baby on the way.  So now she is all pissed off at me cause I brought this up again and that I did not have the decency to just call and BS to see how she was doing, if she was ok, how her work was going, etc all while I am at my police dispatching job answering calls and such like that.  If I'm at work, I focus on work, not home.  If Im at home, I focus on things at home, not work.  All I called her to find out was what her fax number was and she rips into me.  Granted, I understand that this is a tough time for her and that I am there for her.  But her parting words to me was that I should spend the weekend at my parents.

Whats the old saying..... when it rains, it pours?

[bella beeze]

(Sorry to hear about your loss.)

You are being supportive. Dont ever doubt that. Trust me - Just your presence every day with your wife is
showing her your complete and utter support & love, and underneath all her hurt and pain she knows that
and will verbalize it to you when you least expect it and perhaps that might not even happen for years but
I believe it will happen.

Just Hang in there and do as much as you can, doing exactly what you are doing -- Us Women work in wierd
and wonderful ways at times.

[willhaven]

Sounds like rough times man, sorry to hear. Miscarriages are actually fairly common, sadly. I had a coworker go through that a few years ago. It can be devastating.

Here's hoping things get better soon.

[DoNotChallengeHer]

Brian, Be strong and be there for your family. That's all you can do. Your wife is going thru a big hormone change, plus losing the baby. Sometimes the ones that you care about the most. Are the ones you push away. I know it sucks and it's hard to understand because you are going thru so much. Maybe you should look into some grief counsling for the both of you. If you need to talk, send me a PM. Take care

[ChallengerGary]

Very sorry to here about your loss.  My wife & I have actually had 2 miscarriages.  The first one was a real roller coaster because it actually happened before we were married (yes I know abstinence could have prevented that) but truthfully it brought us even closer together.  The second one happened about 2 years after our first child was born (for those of you counting #1 was born 13 months AFTER the wedding).  It was really rough as well, especially since now we knew what we had lost. The bright side was, despite the Doctor saying it would be several months before we could conceive again, about 10 months later we welcomed #2 to the world and he has been an absoulute joy in every way.  He's now 7 years old and he's me "helper."  BTW - we now have 3 kids, our daughter was born 15 months after #2.

Just remember, it's all part of God's plan and we have no way of knowing his plans or his ways.