My dad is dying

[Alaskan_TA]

No one who is remembered fondly is ever truly lost to us, they are always with us, living or dead. 

[71340RT]

There are many times I wish I could talk with my father as he passed away very quickly and I never really got to have a conversation with him as he couldn't talk at the end. I'm very sorry to hear this and hope you have some great conversations with him before he is gone.

[boydsdodge]

Thank you very much guys, I really appreciate your responses.
They have been a great help to me.
I have spent lots time with him and I think it has been good, I have said what I needed to and he has talked alot to me.
We just hang out now and chat, but he's is not liking the dying one bit, he is having his doubts about
having to go as I am sure I would but the doctors say they can't do anymore.
Thanks again.

[Super Blue 72]

Wow, boydsdodge, I'm real sorry to hear about your Dad.

Like the saying goes, there's so much to do, but so little time.  Think about what things that are of the most imprtance to you.  Anything in your relationship with him that has ever bothered you?  You want some resolution to something.  Nows the time.

For me, as priderocks was noting, I don't know if you're religious, but for me, I would feel at rest if I knew my Dad had a good relationship with Jesus as his Savior.  Other things will pass, but for me, knowing his soul will be at peace and with God, I think that is the one thing that would give me peace, knowing that I knew where my Dad stood with Jesus.

[cudagirl4406pk]

My condolences also.

[DoNotChallengeHer]

God bless you and your family.   

[cuda]

I also feel your pain my mopar friend. I also have gone through this very situation with my dad not long ago. You have recieved some great advice on this site and i am glad it was helpful to you. My prayers and thoughts go out to you and your family. 

[Topcat]

My condolences to you and your family.

[hooD]

I am so sorry to hear about your dad.  Its hard to let go of someone you love.  But as others have said, you have the chance to say goodbye and all the other things that you never told him. 

I lost my dad to cancer 12 years ago, and to this day I am thankful for the time I had with him in the end.  I know this situation is not easy on you by any means, in fact, it is almost more stressful for the family left behind.  Take good care of yourself during this painful time.  My prayers are with you and your family to have the strength for another day.
 

[cudadave72]

Our prayers are with you and your family. I know a better place awaits your dad.

[troutstreamnm]

Cherish the time you have together.  I lost my Father last May and that is never an easy thing to deal with.  Just remember he will be with you in heart and soul and thoughts forever.

[74 340 4speed]

For me, as priderocks was noting, I don't know if you're religious, but for me, I would feel at rest if I knew my Dad had a good relationship with Jesus as his Savior.  Other things will pass, but for me, knowing his soul will be at peace and with God, I think that is the one thing that would give me peace, knowing that I knew where my Dad stood with Jesus.

I definitely agree.   When my grandmother was dying in the hospital, I could really tell it was getting to my grandfather.  I had never really spoken of religion with him, but I felt like I needed too.  I saw a calmness come over him after we talked, and I think that really helped him through the situation.  Not long after she passed away, he passed on too.  I felt like when he went, he had a good relationship with God.  He just seemed to be at peace. 

I will keep you in my prayers.

[70RAGTOPR/T]

Sorry to hear that your father is slipping away.  Spend as much time that you can with him.  Let him know that you love him and will aways love him.  Also let him know that you are the person you are because of him.  Don't take this lightly because you will kick yourself for a longtime.  I know this firsthand.  I lost my grandmother who I was very close too to cancer several years ago.  On the day she passed I went to see her before my flight.  She whispered that she loved me but I took it that she was tired and I had a plane to catch.  I found out when I landed that she had passed and I was the last person she talked too.  What I thought was her being tired ws instead was onset of a coma.  Sorry this is still hard for me after several years.  Just be there for him now.

Walt

[N96cuda]

I went through this very thing with my Dad in '07. I never cried in front of him, I would leave the room because he never cried or once complained or asked why him. He was the strongest person I have ever been around, but he was at peace with himself, knew God, and had no regrets. He knew how I felt about him and looking back I now know that his strength and resolve made it easier for me and my family to deal with. This thread almost choked me up because it brought back all the memories. But, I always remember the good times and that we worked side by side every day of my life and I still run the family farm that he started. Time has an amazing way of making things better though, take one day at a time. God Bless.

[boydsdodge]

Thanks again, my dad and I have had some good talks when he doesn't slip into a sleep.
He can have moments of great alertness then drift off, he still has a sence of humour and still likes to tell me about movies and books I should see and read.
Thanks again.