The best guide is the car itself. Every car has its own unique characteristics that you won't find in any guide. That being said, there are two very useful manuals that will help steer you in the right dirrection. Check out
www.iccahome.org I have their fastener guide and it comes in very handy...well worth the price. Other restoration guides have quite a few mistakes. The guides in the link I posted are the only ones I would recommend.
Use those manuals as a "guide" only. Like I said, the car itself should be used above all else.
I would suggest asking a lot of questions on sites like this. There are many knowledgeable people here that can answer your questions. Good luck.