well, I did what I originally thought I'd have to do, to correct this, even though I really didn't want to.
after ordering another "correct" set, that ended up being just as wrong as the others I cut 2 inch pieces 1/8 inch wide pieces of blk electrical tape, wrapped each insert,(some more some less) compressed each tab, inserted and with the slight added thickness, it tightened the insert in the glass when screw was tightened. works and can barley notice it.