A broken heart

[MOPAR FANATIC]

feel for you topcat,don't know what to say on this subject,take it slow with her and hopefully it will work out for both of you.---dave--

[EVIL72]

 TC having met and talked to you and your lady at the Mopar Alley car show the last two years, I'm very sorry to hear about this.
 I'd talk to your Lady about all of this and see what she has to say.
 She may of just had a weak moment and fell off the wagon, it happens, some people are stronger than others when it comes to overcoming addictions.  It may not mean she want's to go back to drinking, it just may mean that she might need some help getting back on the wagon.

  Just make sure that whatever you decide, doesn't cause you to have any weak moments.
 It's alot harder to deal with a situation like this when your recovering yourself, as compared to someone that has never had a drinking problem.

 Good Luck
 We're here for ya,
 
Rob

 
 
 
 
 
 

[chevyconvert]

sorry about your troubles TC. I also have alot of experience with similar situations.
Sometimes the Holidays can bring out old memories/emotions that people react inappropriately to.
You have to take care of #1 first, or you'll be unable to help her.
Hang in there Bud.

[Street_Challenged73]

Mike, I'd say give her a chance by letting her know you don't like what she's doing and try to reinforce positive actions with her.  Maybe catch dinner and a movie or something like that.  I've never had the problem you're facing, but being in college I see and know quite a few people who are on their way to becoming an excessive drinker/alcoholic.  Sure, it's fun to hang out with some friends and meet new people with a couple of drinks, but don't turn it into a new life path that's bad on your body and the people around you.  It's great to know you found it in yourself to seek appropriate help with your past problem, so maybe if your reinforcing doesn't work contact one of your local groups and maybe check her in as a distressed friend.  Hope you get things worked out as nobody needs to go through that.

[Topcat]

Thanks Street,
Some people I know and friends are about to converge on this situation to help out with support. Some good advice from many of you all I thank you all for your input. 

[JCWCuda]

TC I have no words of wisdom to help you .I understand your situatuion having faced Alcholism in my Family and I can offer you Prayers and Support

[Chryco Psycho]

Congrats on getting yourself / life under control , as for your GF falling of the wagon once in 2 years is not worth ending a good relationship over , give her support & some time to work through it call me if you need to , send me a PM & I will get you my phone #
 Hang in there Mike 

[RDF]

I've been through a similar addiction, with smoking though.  I smoked from when I was 15 to about 21.  My girlfriend at the time wanted to quit as well.  At any rate, we both quit (it's been about 12 years for me) and I went to her palce one day (about 9 months after quitting) and sure enough, she was puffing away. 

I know it's hard to support someone when you are clean, especially because it's easy to say "well if I can do it, anyone can".  If you truely love her, then help her through it, so long as she wants to quit.  Some people don't.  It took my father being hospitalized in the ICU for a week with tubes in his lungs for him to quit smoking after 30+ years.  If she wants to get better, she accept the help that you offer.  This doesn't mean you have to be a softy with her, but also remember every person is different.  Try to help her through the things she finds the most difficult about quiting.  You may want to give her some pointers on how you handled it when you were going through it.

We're all here for you man, drop any of us a PM, or a line whenever you want to talk.

[RusTy/SE]

  Mike, i'd talk to her if it was me. I'm the biggest optimist i know but if this is someone whom you are considering spending the rest of your life with, it has to be for the whole package - good and bad. After the discussing, my choice would be easy but the process would be a killer. Just my opinion for what it's worth

Russ

[Oldschool]

Thanks Street,
Some people I know and friends are about to converge on this situation to help out with support. Some good advice from many of you all I thank you all for your input. 

Just wondering if you have had an opportunity to discuss this with her yet?   If so, how was it received?        

[Topcat]

She stopped and said she won't do it again and will attend meetings. She said she is very upset with herself for falling off. I'm very happy to see that she has seen the light again on staying sober. I have comforted her during this ordeal and you are all right. Kicking someone when they're down isn't the answer to get them back up. For now, as they say in AA...One day at a time.

[Oldschool]

That's just awesome!!                      

[Alaskan_TA]

So far so good, every journey begins with one small step. 

Barry

[Moparal]

That's great news.. I hope all works out in the long run for you. Sounds like you both can communicate with each other and that's what makes things right

[Topcat]

Moparal, I just wanted to say that I appreciate you coming around and keeping with me on this difficult time her and I went through together. I understand that how I came across at first might of sounded a little off beat and too much me and not her of concern. At the time, I was feeling panicked and unsure. My thinking wasn't clear.
Just happy to see our home life is back now like it was.