A broken heart

[Moparal]

If you ever need to unwind or just someone that will listen, just let me know. Venting always helps. I understand what kind of confusion your going through. A friend is always ready to listen and help when asked.

[Plum6Pak]

Hey Mike, glad you are working this out. You know this is a subject I am very familiar with and what happened with my brother, it wasn't good. If I had it to do over again, I'd have given him a good kick in the pants, gave him a good shaking, looked him directly in the eye and told him I love him and that I'm not going to back off until he straightens up. Sometimes toughness helps but in your situation it may require tenderness. My brother as you are aware passed away because of his alchoholism and looking back with my 20/20 hind site, I should have been much more aggressive about what I thought of his drinking. Can't pussee foot around when it comes to some people. As already stated, different situations require different responses. Keep up the effort, I know it's been rough, you are a very strong willed person and I believe you will make this work. I'll be giving you a call. 

[whitesatinmopar]

Well. between my irregular work schedule and the site "failure" the last couple days, this thread escaped me until this morning. Mike, sounds like things are now under control. Personally, as in all aspects of life there must be two main aspects, desire and will. I don't mean to minimize your situation, but weather it be you, your girlfriend, me or whomever. Without a desire to achieve, change, or maintain combined with a personal will to accomplish we will fall on our face. Whatever the situation, it can seem meaningless to others, it can be life altering to us, but it takes a desire and a personal will to see it to reality.

Mike, your a special guy and it takes special people to help others and to help themselves through life. Live, give, love........it always has to come from within with sincereity.

Hang tough dude.   

[Rev-It-Up]

This is all very good news TC!  One day at a time, my friend.

[The Cuda Guy]

She stopped and said she won't do it again and will attend meetings. She said she is very upset with herself for falling off. I'm very happy to see that she has seen the light again on staying sober. I have comforted her during this ordeal and you are all right. Kicking someone when they're down isn't the answer to get them back up. For now, as they say in AA...One day at a time.

Hey Bro, I mean the thing is people are going to have relapses (no matter what addiction) in the begining and two years may seem like a long time but we are talking the rest of your life here.  The key is to learn from this and try to figure out the underlying issue that drove her to it again.  I mean it wasnt just a "oh I will have a drink" there is always a "action / reaction" finding out what the cause was and support her and grow closer from all of this.  The bottom line is dont give up on each other if the love is there.  Good luck and let me know if there is ever anything I can do for you here eg. call, write what ever.

Don 

[4Cruizn]

Glad to see things are working out TC!  I too understand what you must be going though.  Stay strong!   

[Topcat]

I love you all. Thanks.

You all have given some very sound advice that I will be rereading it more than once.

 My will power is good right now and hers is returning. I told her that we won't go to our friends big Christmas party this year. I wouldn't want her to be tempted there while she is regaining her will.

[Alaskan_TA]

Good plan TC! Please give her a hug for all of us? Hugs are free and they hold a lot of healing inside. 

Barry

[whitesatinmopar]

  Hell yeh, bring her Carlisle next year and we all will give both of ya hugs,.............but especially her  Appreceiate ya Mike. - Jim

[heminut]

TC, when my daughter was in high school we found out she was drinking, and was actually an alcoholic. We got her into Charter Hospital, where she spent a month getting straightened out. About 9 months after getting out she ditched school one day and got drunk. She came home and admitted to us what she had done, and we called her counselor from the hospital. The counselor told us that a relapse of that sort was not uncommon, and the fact that she came to us and admitted what she had done was a good sign. She advised us to talk it out with our daughter and support her, but to stay watchful. Our daughter is now 30 years old with a great husband and two wonderful boys, and hasn't touched a drop of alcohol since that time. A relapse is not uncommon, and with love and support you and your girlfriend can get past it and beat this thing.

[srvfndr]

My friend.......I just found your posting and my thoughts go out to you. I remember first meeting you and she was there also. Seems like a good woman. Stick in there and take care.

Dave

[MOPAR FANATIC]

topcat,how has everything been going?were here for you bud,hopefuuly everythings going good.--dave--

[4Cruizn]

My friend.......I just found your posting and my thoughts go out to you. I remember first meeting you and she was there also. Seems like a good woman. Stick in there and take care.

Dave

srvfndr here is a smaller pic for your avatar. 

[Topcat]

topcat,how has everything been going?were here for you bud,hopefuuly everythings going good.--dave--

Her and I are doing good. Glad to see her back. Were back on track now. Thanks for checking back.

[4Cruizn]

Her and I are doing good. Glad to see her back. Were back on track now.

Thanks good to hear!  Stay with it TC!