My dad is dying

[boydsdodge]

I am sorry post this put you seem to have great opinions and ideas.
I am asking for thoughts on what to do while I am sitting with my dad.
He may be gone this week and I am afraid I am going miss an opportunity.
It's a hard one.

[6packCuda]

Are you able to talk to him? Just make sure he knows how much you love him and try to make him comfortable in his final hours. Nothing is worse than not being able to say goodbye. You and your father will be in my thoughts and prayers.

[426HEMI]

I am sorry to hear that I went through the same thing years ago.  I am glad you are with him as I was with my dad.  You and he will be in my prayers also.  Take care and let him know that you love him also.



Gordon

[HP2]

Sometimes being there is enough. Certainly this is a difficult situation, but perhaps just letting him know that it is okay to go can help.

You're in my thoughts and prayers.

[boydsdodge]

He doesnt like to see me loose it, (so he says) but when ever I start to talk about what he has meant to me or my favorite times he has shown me or done with me, I start to choke up, we have talked lots about what he wants me to do and the biz end but not so much about us.
I am worried I am going to miss it and reget it.
Thanks for the replies.

[6packCuda]

You know, I get like that too. I get all choked up and just can't get the words out. Maybe you could write down what you want to tell him and let him read it.

[The Cuda Guy]

Man Im sorry to hear this.  If you can reflect on the good memories that you both share.  Tell him how much he has ment to you over the years and all the great things he taught you.  And just be there bro, this is time you can never live again make the most of it and say good bye.

I lost my Stepdad while I was deployed (2006) and these are a few of the things I wish I could have convyed before he passed.

You and your family will be in my prayers.   

Don 

[Alaskan_TA]

Spend as much time with him as you can. Now is the time to ask him about every little thing you ever wanted to know about him.

Give him a very gentle hug from all of us as well.

[bb71challenger]

Spend as much time with him as you can. Now is the time to ask him about every little thing you ever wanted to know about him.

Give him a very gentle hug from all of us as well.

This says it all. I remember sitting with my grandpa when he was dying of cancer. Make every moment with him count. If you choke up just let it go and stay with him. I found out a lot about my grandad and what it was like to be in a B-17 over Germany during WWII. Ask about anything and everything. The more he remembers and talks about the better, for both of you. Dont leave anything unsaid. I will remember your dad, you and your family members in my prayers. May God comfort you both in this difficult time.

[69bronzeT5]

I hope you get as much time as you can with him

[Chryco Psycho]

My condolences , I went though the same thing 6 years ago , every relationship is different between Father & son , My dad & I never really straightened things out but I have no regrets

[Mentally Challenged]

Very sorry to hear that. My condolences also.

[Carlwalski]

My prayers go out to your Dad, your family and yourself. Keep strong and think of all the good times. Your Dad sounds like a soldier (at least in heart/soul) "no time for tears" lol maybe make him laugh a few times talking about some of the crazy stuff you guys have done. I feel for you bud, take it easy and as mentioned before, being there is all he could ask for. All I can say is to count yourself "lucky" (can't think of the proper word, it's not a lucky situation by any means) but lucky that you get this opportunity. So many stories everyday of people dying on their way to work, hit by bus, suicide, robbery, etc so you unlike many get the chance to sit down, be together and say your final goodbyes. He'll never leave you, he'll always be in your heart.

[wiiildcat]

       I am so sorry to hear this boydsdodge, I lost my dad 5 yrs ago this April 9th, he died in a auto accident. I was mad, mad at him, mad at me, mad at the car, you name it. To this day I wish I could have said goodbye.

      Enjoy the time you can be with him, tell him how much he mattered to you. Let him know you you will be strong and take care of the family, sorry getting choked up, these are the things I wanted my dad to know but never got the chance to tell him. I have 2 daughters and a son, I would want my son to take care of his mother and sisters. These are the things I would want to be at peace with. Just be there for him, and god bless you and your family in this sad time.

[hemiken]

Hi Boyds,
All i can suggest to you buddy.  If you feel you have to tell him and really feel you will have closure doing so, then give him a huge hug, tell him what you want to say while holding on to him and do not worry about choking up, let your emotions out, you and him will feel much better for doing so............. it will be the last special moment you may have with him, something to remember for the rest of your life. It will be a hard task, but it will be in your memories forever