My dad is dying

[wagesofsin]

sorry to hear this.
a couple of days prior to my dads passing i had called him just to talk, nothing urgent. after a brief chat(neither of us are real phone talkers) we said goodbye, and hung up. a nagging sense came over me and i called him back. i felt i needed to tell him he was the reason i am the person i am today. i had become a success due to his many teachings, and everything i did related back to him. he also became wiser as i became older. he was taken aback and noticably touched. i then told him how much i loved him and appreciated him. 2 days later he was gone.

[BIGSHCLUNK]

I think everything that could be said has been, so I wont repeat it. but GOD bLESS

[whitesatinmopar]

Sorry to hear this friend, reality is you can't do anything to keep him here sad as that is. You being with him now is the best situation you can find yourself. Your love for him will be shown in you being there beside him. Talk...........as much as he is able, but silence can also say so much and a hand on a shoulder can give great comfort to him too I would beleieve. As you talk, yes speak of past times, but before he goes ask him what he'd like for you to do after he passes. That question to him ought to truly tell him how much you love and care for him,.........you want to do his will (as your  Dad) even after he is gone. Don't be afraid or ashamed of tears, tears of sorrow now are far more "pleasent" than later tears of regret because of something you didn't do or say when the opportunity was there.

Sure will be thinking of you and your Dad in the coming days, I'm sorry. 

[MEK-Dangerfield]

I'm sure there are many of us that have lost someone suddenly, and we now wish for that proverbial 5 more minutes with then.

You have a chance to bear your soul to him. Don't be ashamed of your emotions, and don't let it hold you back.


  Mike

[boydsdodge]

I really want to say thanks to all of you for your great replies.
I have just returned from moving him to the palliative care ward.
That has taken some of his and myself's braveness, I could see it in his eyes when they told him that he was being moved.
I have to make some calls and then I am going back down to see him.
You have all helped and given me the strength to do what I want to before he goes.
I am sorry to bring this to the site that I go to for enjoyment, but thanks.

[dutch]

sorry to hear you guys go through this right now. I lost my dad at 46 and my mom at 57... my dad passed very sudden and my mom had cancer.  Both ways have their pro`s and con`s.  I`ve always regretted I couldn`t say what I wanted to my dad and had a hard time talking to my mom, but I did.  There will always be things you wanted to say, but talk while you have the chance... and try to have some fun too, there will be enough time left to grieve.

[Mentally Challenged]

I really want to say thanks to all of you for your great replies.
I have just returned from moving him to the palliative care ward.
That has taken some of his and myself's braveness, I could see it in his eyes when they told him that he was being moved.
I have to make some calls and then I am going back down to see him.
You have all helped and given me the strength to do what I want to before he goes.
I am sorry to bring this to the site that I go to for enjoyment, but thanks.

We are all friends here. If talking about it is what helps you, then we are here for you. Sorry to hear about what you are going through. ...Chris

[4Cruizn]

Sad news . .     Alot of good advise here that I agree with.  Spend as much time with him as you can!   

[AprilsPink72Cuda]

I am so sorry to hear this sad news about your Dad.  Many have already said what I am thinking.  Don't worry about getting choked up or showing emotion, it is a natural thing.  Just you being there is showing him how much you love him.  I will be keeping you and your family in my prayers.

[wagesofsin]

I am so sorry to hear this sad news about your Dad.  Many have already said what I am thinking.  Don't worry about getting choked up or showing emotion, it is a natural thing.  Just you being there is showing him how much you love him.  I will be keeping you and your family in my prayers.

 

dont ever feel bad for being honest.
the greatest thing about the folks here is just that. theres alotta caring here, and genuinely.

[brads70]

I can't add much to what's been said but know my prayers are with you ,Don't be sorry for posting this on here! This  site is more than just  about cars!
God Bless!

[challengerx]

Very sad to hear this as I just went through this 3 weeks ago. I sat with my mom for 2 weeks before she passed. For the most part she was to medicated to understand what I was saying but I still talked to her and told her how much we loved her. I to tried not to show my emotions but this was worse for me as they just continued to build, so don't hold it in. I don't know you but my thoughts are with you. Chris

[bb71challenger]

Sorry for your loss too Chris. I could not begin to imagine life without my father and mother. I am not too close to my mom, she left town years ago and we dont stay in contact very often. My dad lives six miles from me though and I see or talk to him almost every day. My condolences to anyone who has had to go through the loss of a parent.

[priderocks]

Jackson, take a notebook and pen with you when you go see him. Ask him to talk about his life-everything, his regrets, feelings, experiences, people he has known, all the places he has lived, where he met your mom- everything you can think of to ask him. All the places he worked. What he did as a kid. You get the idea. Write as much and as fast as you can. Even better would be one of those digital voice recorders, even if he fills up two or three of them. Having him talk will give a sense of closure to you both, as he  and you share his life one last time. The time will come when your kids want to know about grandpa, and you will be able to tell them.

And above all else. let him know of Jesus' death for him- that his sins are forgiven with a simple prayer of trust in what Christ did. If he has never been a religious man, read the story of the thief on the cross to him. Go for it, dude.

[PlumCrazyRTSE]

Very sorry to hear this, you have my deepest condolences.

Someone said to me once that when you lose someone close to you, you should try to keep in mind that you will eventually meet up with them again when your time comes and that there are people on the other side (parents, siblings and old friends) who have passed on before them and are there waiting to meet up with them again as well.  I've always found those to be comforting thoughts when someone close to me passes away.