Reverse lights complete the circuit when the reverse switch is on. Shorting to ground will blow a fuse. ChallengerHK is right about what I said about pulling the connector. If you pull it and the reverse lights go out, then your switch is always closed, completing the circuit or the 2 wires are shorted together. If you run an automatic trans, the center pin is what gets grounded to complete the circuit for the starter solenoid. In that case, it is the 2 outside wires that connect together to turn on the lights.
If you pull the plug and they still stay on, then they are getting power from somewhere else. You didn't just get a new harness from a company that starts with EVA did you?