I should preface this with the statement that I do not have either system, nor have I done exentensive analysis on either system. With that...
RMS has been around longer and is a very well designed system that has many thousands of customers and I have never heard anything bad from anyone who has installed them. By contrast, XV was developed exclusively for a more exclusive clientele who preferred turn key cars,and it was only after numerous suggestion to sell it in pieces that they began selling kits.
Without examining them closely and comparing side by side, I can't say one is clearly supperior to the other, and in all actuality, they maybe very close, although their designers may disagree. Things I do know, XV is based off Corvette parts, RMS uses Mustang 2. The XV three link may be a better and more adjustable rear set up than the multilink AlterK Street Lynx. 3 link rears have been used extensively in road and oval racing, whereas the Street Lynx is more closely related to GM A body design. Coil overs are great for their ability to quickley and easily adjust spring rates and ride height compared to leaf springs.
If cost is a factor, the full blown XV set up will run you around $10k, Alterk will be in the $7k range. An improved stock set up can be built for $2-3k. For your intended usage of better overall ride with occasional hard cornering and much improved braking, you can get there with any of the above. I would also recommend that before dropping any coin on suspension, you pursue bracing and reinforcement to firm up the unibody structure. Often times doing this alone can improve the responsiveness of the orginal parts so much that you'll find you don't need to step up significantly in other components.
For brakes, your wheel size will help determine the options available for you. For simple cruising, the stock 11.75 will work more than adequately for anything you throw at it. if your serious about autocross, you may want to consider smaller 10.5" rotors for less weight. If you do any open track day events, you may want to look at 12.19 or 13" rotors to avoid fade. Wilwood, Baer, Mopar and others all have options and prices can range from a few hundred to a few thousand dollars.