New Hampshire is a 50/50 split for the majority of cases and after some "heated" fights and such we have pretty much settled everything without going to court except this house issue.The house needs to be sold for us to settle the divorce and get both our names off the mortgage so we can move on and find new housing.It looks like the only choices are pay off the shortage,work out a short sale or stop paying and eventually have them foreclose.As it stands now I get all my cars,parts and tools,some off the house stuff and she keep the rest.A lease/purchase is a great option but I don`t know how easy it will be to find something.
If you dont feel confident or dont know the lease/purchase market in your area...get a good realtor. Ask friends or family for a referral. It wont cost you anything. The seller/landlord will pay any fees, but....make a good effort on your own first. You may surprise yourself.
And I stress the word "good" realtor. Sadly, some of us dont have good reputations of looking out for their clients best interest.