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Offline VTMopar

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Road Trip
« on: January 30, 2013 - 11:14:58 PM »
I'm a fairly private person, so this will be an unusual post for me.....       

I lost my wife of 40 plus years a few weeks ago to ALS or Lou Gehrig's disease.   We were high-school sweethearts and we have been growing up together for a long time.   She was diagnosed nearly 5 years ago and we made the most of these past few years, with some travel and a lot of car shows (she loved to watch people).   She was very courageous and fought this monster with grace and style.   But, this insidious disease just keeps taking away your ability to function.  So, while I miss her, she's in a much better place now -- and smiling again.   

I have no responsibilities, having retired just before her diagnosis, and fortunately I don't have too many financial worries.  My 2 sons are happily married and are in good shape.   My life is now an empty page.... and I have no idea what to do.  My youngest son suggested that I hop in the Challenger and hit the road for a while.    After thinking about it, that is what I now plan to do.    I'm not sure if I will go for a week; a month or for several months.  I don't know where I am going or for how long.    I will probably head south from Vermont to get out of the snow and check out the South, Southwest and ultimately California.   I have some relatives along the way and really have no schedule or route.   I've always wanted to check out Route 66..... so that's about the only thing that I've thought of so far.   

I don't know if a "blog" is appropriate here - but if it is ok with the moderators, I may post some of my experiences while on the road.    I also may need a little assistance, especially if I break down or need a little mechanical advice and/or referrals.   So, if you see a Plum Crazy '70 Challenger Convertible -- it might be me.....   

A bit of advice:   Life is short.    Give your significant other -- or your kids -- a hug.   Laugh and smile often.    You never know when your world is going to be turned upside down (even if you think you see it coming).     

Thanks for listening.

Doug 
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Re: Road Trip
« Reply #1 on: January 30, 2013 - 11:18:06 PM »
I am very sorry for your loss.

I hope you find some happiness on the road. I think that you will.

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Re: Road Trip
« Reply #2 on: January 30, 2013 - 11:30:22 PM »
   No words can comfort the incredible hole in your heart for the loss of your most precious beloved. 1st make sure you take the time to fully grieve and heal before making big descisions that may just be reflections of the pain your are feeling. Sounds like she was a happy and wonderful partner don,t spend too much alone time with yourself it is best to be around people and family. I was crushed when I lost my grandfather and it took a long time for that to heal and I cannot even imaging losing my wife of our 20yr relationship. I will pray for you and your wife. If you do decide to go on the trip which sounds pretty fun and neat, I am positive members here will assist along the way. Sounds fun and will be looking forward to the pics of your healing journey.

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Re: Road Trip
« Reply #3 on: January 30, 2013 - 11:35:06 PM »
Best of luck to you Doug, with your grieving and your road trip.  If your trip takes you through nebraska feel free to drop me a line, for lunch, dinner or our spare bedroom, you are more than welcome.
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Re: Road Trip
« Reply #4 on: January 31, 2013 - 01:45:35 PM »
I am so sorry to hear abot the loss of your wife. 

If you decide to embark on this trip, wich I think you should, and you decide to come north to Canada,  do not hesitaet to let me know.  Ify ou are in the Toronto Ontario are and need any help, goive me a ring and count me in (you are plannign to bring a cell phone right).

I still have young kids, so I see a iot of kids movies, so this may sound funny but, have you ever seen  the Disney movie UP...it seems awfully appropriate here.  The plot involves a married couple where the wife dies befor the hsband.  They had plans to explore the world, but never got around to it for one reason or another (wich does not seem to be your case).  The wife leaves a note to the husband in the scrap book of their life together, with the message to go on an adventure and live his life (not a direct quote).

I am glad to see you are doing that.

If there is anythign I can do please let me know.

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Re: Road Trip
« Reply #5 on: January 31, 2013 - 01:53:56 PM »

I cannot image the depth of your loss but know that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

When you make it out to California I'll be more than happy to show you the sights and take some Mopar cruises.

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« Reply #6 on: January 31, 2013 - 02:50:05 PM »
I am so sorry to hear abot the loss of your wife. 

If you make it to Dallas look me up, dinner lunch whatever....

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Re: Road Trip
« Reply #7 on: January 31, 2013 - 03:07:12 PM »
Doug,

I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your wife.

If you want, I'm going, along with some others, doing all of Route 66 and then doing the Lincoln Highway back to Chicago.  I'll post more information when I get further into it.

But it would be in September, you are more then welcome to come and join us.

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Re: Road Trip
« Reply #8 on: January 31, 2013 - 03:38:29 PM »
sorry for your loss!! if you make it down to south georgia or north florida and need something let me know!
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Re: Road Trip
« Reply #9 on: January 31, 2013 - 03:52:45 PM »
wow... I'm so sorry to hear this. :sadwavey: I'm glad you know she is in a better place!
I'd love to do a trip like that, I've dreamed about if for awhile. Someday I'm gonna do it too!  Take some time to grieve and then go for it ! Life is for the living! By the sounds of it I'm sure she would approve!
I'd love to follow along and hear/see some of your adventures! If your ever up this way your always welcome and would be honoured to have you stay here for a few days or what ever? I'm just North of Jason.
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Re: Road Trip
« Reply #10 on: January 31, 2013 - 04:21:08 PM »
I am sorry to hear you lost your wife...  :sadwavey:
sounds like a plan to go for a cruize. Mount a camera on the dash... it would make a great movie  :2thumbs:
I`m looking forward to you blog.  Have a safe trip  :cheers:
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Re: Road Trip
« Reply #11 on: January 31, 2013 - 08:42:49 PM »
Sorry to hear, I have been married for over 25 years, my wife and I have only had a few nights apart in 29 years, only due to having kids/hospital stays etc, we met in 1984 at a McDonalds.

3 year's ago we had a cancer scare, she was diagnosed with thyroid cancer, she had it removed and so far so good!!

i'm down the street from you in Northern Ct, come pick me up on your trip down Rt 91 South!!

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Re: Road Trip
« Reply #12 on: January 31, 2013 - 09:09:31 PM »
I'm sorry to hear that as well.  I'm glad that you had 40 good years together.  That alone is an accomplishment now-a-days.

If you expect to find yourself near Manchester, NH drop me a line.  There are a lot a great folks here on CC.com.  So you could certainly make a odyssey out of visiting with them.

I've always wanted to drive route 1 from Maine to Florida.  Route 66 would be another good trip. 

Take care, enjoy the road, and keep in touch.
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Re: Road Trip
« Reply #13 on: January 31, 2013 - 10:08:39 PM »
Hi Doug - really sorry to hear of your wife's passing. I'm sure you will be her keeper of all the great memories you made together.
Whether you are heading out or heading back to VT and you find yourself in RI give us a shout.

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Re: Road Trip
« Reply #14 on: January 31, 2013 - 11:22:19 PM »
I pray you find peace and comfort in the days ahead. May you be guided by your faith.
I live in Maryland if you take the southern route.  Our Cruise season starts in April.
Sit down and prepare a route on your computer.  Google search will help.
If you have a laptop purchase a wifi adapter to keep intouch with family and friends.
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